You are likely to come across some
tough situations throughout your life-time.
However, perhaps one of the toughest will be getting it right, when you
ask a girl out on a date. You are hoping
she will say yes straight away. However,
you may not always be that lucky and she may say no, or make excuses as to why
she cannot go out with you.
Here are some tips on how you can get
the girl to say yes to your request for a date.
Reason for Failure
If you are a stranger to the girl, you
are asking out, the chances are she is more likely to say no. You could be ‘Jack the Ripper’ for all she
knows. Her response will likely be an
act of self-preservation that has little to do with you. She will be applying what she has been taught
since early childhood ‘not to talk, or go with strangers’
You should not allow a rejection to
dent your self-confidence. You need to
take things slowly and spend some time as acquaintances, getting to know each
other. Once she gets to know and starts to feel comfortable with you, she is
much more likely to say yes.
Plan to Do Something Exciting
Choose something fun activities you
can do with a group of friends. That
gives you the opportunity to invite the girl to join your group as a
friend. You then have a non-threatening
opportunity to relax and interact so you can get to know each other better.
If you succeed in getting the girl to
hang out with you and some friends, you will find it much easier to ask her on
a date. She is more likely to say yes,
because she has seen that you can be a fun guy.
Be spontaneous, and don’t be afraid to
show you have a caring side. Show her
you are intelligent and can talk about topics other than what’s going on at school
or at home. Talk about subjects or
hobbies that really interest you, and take time to find out what she likes and
dislikes. It is all about natural and
free flowing communication and getting to know about each other.
Plan the Logistics of Your Date
in Advance
Plan ahead and know what you intend to
do on the date. Then when you ask her if
she is free that evening, you can tell her what you have planned and ask if
that is OK with her. If she has already
said she is free that night, she is unlikely to say no. If she sees you are
willing to compromise about what you want to do during the date, it will help
to win you brownie points.
However, if after saying she is free,
she then starts to make excuses why she cannot go on the date with you. You should accept it as a good sign, she is
not attracted to you.
Alternatively, if she says, she
already has plans for the evening you want to take her out; you can try some
charm and gentle persuasion. If she
knows you are a fun person to be with, and she is attracted to you, you may get
her to change her plans. Or you can ask
her what night would be OK with her.
Take it as Read That You Have
to do the Asking.
Don’t labor under the misapprehension
that a girl will ask you out on a date.
Contrary to a popular belief, there are only a very small number of
girls who will ask you out. If you don’t
want to miss out, then be prepared to be the one that asks for a date.
Choosing the Right Moment
Making sure you choose the right
moment to ask a girl on a date is important.
If you rush in and ask her before she has had the chance to get to know
you, she will say no. It may take
several meetings as friends before you find the right moment. You need to be patient, use your instincts
and learn to read the signs she is giving you, and you should know
instinctively when she is ready to progress to dating.
Knowing When the Time is Right
to Ask Her Out
There are several signs that may
indicate that the girl is ready to go out on a date with you. In addition to the way she looks at you and
her body language, you may notice a more intimate tone in her conversation with
you.
She will show an interest in you, even
when you talk about something boring or are saying very little. You need to rely on your instinct and natural
ability to know when the time is right to ask her for a date.
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