If you want to
ask a girl out on a date, you should approach her with some style and
romance. The advice in this chapter will
help you to bring out the romantic side of your personality.
Having a girl
as a friend is one thing; it is the moving on to a romantic relationship that
can be the difficult part. Making a
smooth transition will be easy if you approach it in the right way. What you say, and the way you behave, when
you ask a girl out, can be the key to your success or your failure.
Don’t be Afraid to Show your
Feminine Side or Caring Nature
If you are
really interested in a girl, you need to let her know. That often means toning down your ‘macho’
attitude and behavior and letting her see you have a softer and more caring
nature. If you come across as having too
much testosterone, you risk frightening or turning the girl off, and she will
make excuses not to go out with you.
Many of the
male populations are reluctant to admit that they have a feminine side,
especially in front of other males.
However, the best way to get the girl to go out on a date is to show her
you do have a sensitive and caring nature.
If you do this, and she continues to turn you down, then you should
forget her and find another girl to ask out.
Believe in Yourself
You may not be
the most attractive male on the planet, but you may not be the ugliest. You need to be strong in the belief that you
do have something to offer a girl.
However, you do need to find the right balance between being
self-confident or being over-bearing, if you want to be successful in
attracting the girl.
If like most
males starting out on the dating game, you think you don’t have a romantic bone
in your body, you may be surprised.
Following a few simple steps can introduce you to your romantic side.
Sit Down and Make a List
If you are not
good at remembering things, you can write them down in a list. Girls are well impressed if you remember
their birthday, or special occasions such as anniversaries, without having to
be reminded. The minimum you should do
is send her a card, but you will gain a lot more brownie points if you send
flowers, chocolates or take her out for a nice meal to celebrate.
You can also
use your list to make a note of her likes and dislikes such as does she have a
favorite perfume, what is her favorite color and so on? It will save you a whole lot of grief if you
choose something she really likes as a gift for those special occasions.
Make the First Move
Knowing when
your relationship with a girl is ready to move on to the next stage can be
tricky. As many girls will be reluctant
to take the initiative, it is up to you to make the first move. If you over-step the mark, by being too
passionate too quickly, you can destroy the relationship. You need to start off by saying goodbye with
a wave or a casual kiss on the cheek.
You can hold hands while walking, or while sitting in the cinema. The more you get to know her the easier you
will find it is to read the signs. She
will let you know when she is ready to progress the relationship.
Communication
Communication
plays a very important part in any relationship. It is an excellent tool that provides the
opportunity for the couple to find out what makes each other tick. The conversations should be natural and
should be geared as much to listen and learning, as they are about
talking. Initially, the girl may appear
to be shy or unwilling to talk about herself, talking about interests or
hobbies you have in common will help her to relax.
You can try to
draw her out by asking questions.
However, you should take care that you don’t make her feel like she is
being interrogated.
Be There for Her When She Needs
You
If your girl
is upset for any reason, or just feels unwell, you need to bring out your
caring side and be there for her. You
may not be able to do anything to cure a physical ailment, but you can provide
emotional support. Just by being there
and listening shows that you really care and that can help to improve her
emotional state.
Make Sure She Notices You
There is
little point in you wasting your time and energy putting on a show for a girl,
is she doesn’t even know you are there.
You need to make sure your actions involve something she is interested
in and ask her to get involved or to give you her opinion on what you intend
doing. Unfortunately for some, that does
mean you need to talk to her and get to know her first, before trying to
impress.
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