It can be
quite nerve racking to decide on the best way to ask a girl out. You need to consider a number of things, but
these are the five rules you should always remember.
Do Not Call Her
Immediately
Once
you have your hands on the girl’s phone number, don’t call her straight
away. If you appear
too eager, she may think you are pressurizing her, and she may be put off you
altogether.
Give
her time to get used to the idea that you will be phoning her, but don’t leave
it too long or someone else may beat you to it.
Usually, waiting for twenty-four to forty-eight hours
is best.
Do Not Ask Her for a Date Straight Away
When
you do get around to phoning, don’t just jump into asking her out on a
date. Spend some time chatting about
life in general, or a topic that interests you both. If your instincts are telling you
that you need to get to know each other a bit better before dating, arrange to
meet for coffee or a lunch just as friends.
Alternatively,
if you are arranging any type of group get together, you tell her she is
welcome to come along. That way, you are not actually inviting her on a date,
but it gives you the opportunity to get to know her better if she does come.
Make Your Date More Fun
than Stress
Some people
can make such a big deal out of their first date, they forget to have fun. Your girl will be much more impressed if you
are relaxed and can show her that you are enjoying her company and whatever it
is you are doing.
If you are stressing
out about making sure the date is a success, you are likely to be trying too
hard and that doesn’t create a good impression and can be just as bad as being
over-confident and blasé about the situation.
When choosing
a venue or activity for your first date stick to something within your comfort
zone. You will have enough nervous
energy to contend with, without having the stress that comes from dealing with
a new environment or activity at the same time.
Just Tell Her Your Plans Instead Of Asking Her
It is very
easy to get it wrong when you are choosing what to do and where to go on a
first date. Someone has to take the
initiative, and that should be you. Have
some ideas in mind of what you would like to do, but tell your date what you're
thinking about. Providing she does not
object or make alternative suggestions, you should go ahead and make the
arrangements.
If your
suggestions do not meet with your girl’s approval, ask her what she would like
to do instead. You may both need to
compromise to find something you both want to do.
Depending on
how well you have gotten to know each other, it will improve your chances of
arranging dates that will meet with her approval. You will soon learn whether she is happy to
let you go ahead with arrangements for your dates without first consulting
her.
Many girls
these days expect an equal say in the decisions, and if they don’t get it, they
may perceive you as being domineering and controlling. On the other hand, there are still a few
girls around who are happy to leave all the decisions to you.
Convince Your Girl
Your first
date gives you the opportunity to gather information about your girl and decide
if you are likely to be compatible if you continue dating. Just as she is examining you and forming an
opinion, you need to do the same with her personality. If you find that your opinions are
conflicting about the small unimportant things, then you may have serious
differences when it comes to the important life decisions. Compromising may not be an option unless both
parties are willing.
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