Mistakes to Avoid When Asking A Girl Out

Knowing how to impress a girl is often not enough.  If you want to be successful you need to know the pitfalls and how to avoid them.  This chapter will tell you more about the pitfalls to avoid.

Negative Thinking

Whether you consciously or unconsciously allow yourself to think negative thoughts, it will show up in your body language.  If your date is perceptive enough to read your body language or picks up on your negativity through your conversation, that alone will put your date off.  In many cases it can also prevent you from asking girls out on a date.  The only one that can get rid of that negativity is you.  You need to concentrate on what you have got, and your best features and eliminate the negative thoughts to improve your self-confidence.

Don’t Chase a Girl Who Is Not Interested In You

One of the worst mistakes you can make is to keep pushing for a date when the girl has already turned you down.  If she really isn’t interested in you and you keep pushing she could perceive that you are stalking her.  That could become a serious problem and get you into a lot of trouble.

You need to take what she is saying at face value and if she rejects your request for a date, back off.  You need to turn your attentions elsewhere.

You need to be perceptive to whether the girl is interested, but is just playing hard to get by saying no when you first ask her out.  If she starts ignoring you, and try’s to avoid your company, you can be pretty sure she meant no when she said it.  If she doesn’t try and avoid you, or continues to talk to you, it might be worth waiting a while and trying again.

Control your Insecurity and Jealousy

Another often unforgivable mistake is to become jealous and insecure about your relationship.  If you start being moody when she talks to other blokes, or you complain about her spending time with her girlfriends, you are on a slippery slope.  Once it starts it usually only gets worse.  You need to constantly remind yourself that your girl is not your possession, and she is with you because she wants to be.

Fear of Rejection

Rejection by a girl can dent your self-confidence and your ego.  Usually if it’s just your ego, you already think a lot of yourself and will convince yourself that it was her and not you, so no real harm done.

On the other hand, if your self-confidence takes a real knock you may find it harder to get up the courage to ask another girl out.  You can always talk it through with someone you really trust that can help you to see it is not the end of the world and support you while you move on.  The longer you leave it to move on, the harder it will be.