Knowing
how to impress a girl is often not enough.
If you want to be successful you need to know the pitfalls and how to
avoid them. This chapter will tell you
more about the pitfalls to avoid.
Negative Thinking
Whether you
consciously or unconsciously allow yourself to think negative thoughts, it will
show up in your body language. If your
date is perceptive enough to read your body language or picks up on your
negativity through your conversation, that alone will put your date off. In many cases it can also prevent you from
asking girls out on a date. The only one
that can get rid of that negativity is you.
You need to concentrate on what you have got, and your best features and
eliminate the negative thoughts to improve your self-confidence.
Don’t Chase a Girl Who Is
Not Interested In You
One of the
worst mistakes you can make is to keep pushing for a date when the girl has
already turned you down. If she really
isn’t interested in you and you keep pushing she could perceive that you are
stalking her. That could become a
serious problem and get you into a lot of trouble.
You need to
take what she is saying at face value and if she rejects your request for a
date, back off. You need to turn your attentions
elsewhere.
You need to be
perceptive to whether the girl is interested, but is just playing hard to get
by saying no when you first ask her out.
If she starts ignoring you, and try’s to avoid your company, you can be
pretty sure she meant no when she said it.
If she doesn’t try and avoid you, or continues to talk to you, it might
be worth waiting a while and trying again.
Control your Insecurity and
Jealousy
Another often
unforgivable mistake is to become jealous and insecure about your
relationship. If you start being moody
when she talks to other blokes, or you complain about her spending time with
her girlfriends, you are on a slippery slope.
Once it starts it usually only gets worse. You need to constantly remind yourself that
your girl is not your possession, and she is with you because she wants to be.
Fear of Rejection
Rejection by a
girl can dent your self-confidence and your ego. Usually if it’s just your ego, you already
think a lot of yourself and will convince yourself that it was her and not you,
so no real harm done.
On the other
hand, if your self-confidence takes a real knock you may find it harder to get
up the courage to ask another girl out.
You can always talk it through with someone you really trust that can
help you to see it is not the end of the world and support you while you move
on. The longer you leave it to move on,
the harder it will be.